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| 24 February 2008 | |
| So I am trying my best to catch up and my wife bugs me to go to a train show today with her and my daughter where I know darn well I am going to spend money on toy trains instead of working. Anyway, she won't stop bugging me until I cave. It's stressful enough right now, but I figure for peace and harmony I will go. I go and it's not a bad show. I spend money (under $100) and wind up feeling darn guilty I got one return done today.
Should I feel guilty? Tom | |
| 24 February 2008 | |
| NO, you should feel lucky that your wife has the sense to drag you away from the office for awhile. Your brain needs the rest that a change brings.
The end of tax season will come soon enough, and you will somehow get everything done you absolutely need to. Just remember: "I think I can. I think I can. I think I can." | |
| 24 February 2008 | |
| End of the day - which is more important? Your family or work? That should make you feel guilty or Not guilty. | |
Bottom Line (talk|edits) said: | 24 February 2008 |
| You feel guilty because you know tomorrow will bring a lot of "Tom,why haven't you's?" Believe me, I'm even worse with the guilties. I feel guilty because clients bring me work and I don't turn it around in 24 hours and then I feel guilty because I'm neglecting my husband and THEN I feel guilty because I'm neglecting my elderly parents.
People will tell you that years from now you will remember taking the time out of tax season to spend with your wife and daughter. | |
| 24 February 2008 | |
| and I have never seen this epitaph yet on a tombstone:
I wish I had done one more tax return. | |
| 24 February 2008 | |
| You guys are right. I am overwhelmed with trying to get back on track after being slowed down by some unexpected twists and turns. My wife's aunt who was sick for years, died Valentine's Day and had her funeral a week ago, but we have been helping the family. I also had a friend and mentor suffer a very bad heart attack and I have been visiting her at the hospital and rehab often as I can. I am also trying to correct some of my past tax season flaws (mainly workflow/processing stuff) and just when I seem to be doing okay, another monkey wrench gets thrown into the mix. Maybe I am being way too hard on myself. It's a bad habit, but I do try to tell myself no one on their deathbed ever says, "I wish I spent more time at the office."
Tom | |
| 24 February 2008 | |
| Your wife is selfish. A train show is more important than you? Wrong. You are very busy. She should leave you alone. Tell her you will be able to spend the quality time with her after April 15th. Do as you promise. If she does not understand that, get rid of her. Do you interupt her busy time with "Lets go to a car show?" | |
| 25 February 2008 | |
| DZ - Do I see your tongue firmly planted in your cheek in this response?
Tom | |
| 25 February 2008 | |
| I played golf today. I drank lots of rum and coke. I did not do any tax returns. I don not feel guilty. | |
Bottom Line (talk|edits) said: | 25 February 2008 |
| Good for you Nerd. I took most of yesterday off and spent it with my husband at the Tampa Bay Rays Fan Fest. Bought season tickets so have the summer "together time" all planned out!! | |
| 25 February 2008 | |
| Good for you. Your choice I hope. I hope he did not "bug" you like Tom's wife. Nerd??? Thought you were above name calling. Guess I'm wrong. Tom is more stressed out after the train event than before and has guilt to add. It was not woth it. He will now suffer more to catch up. | |
Bottom Line (talk|edits) said: | 25 February 2008 |
I was talking to TaxNerd. I would NEVER call you a nerd DZ  . Of course the baseball tix were my idea! I was on the season ticket waiting list back when the White Sox were talking about moving to St Pete in the early 90's. That's one of the reasons "the tall skinny" and I are a good match. We both like baseball.
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| 25 February 2008 | |
| woops. My choice of names almost caused a tizzy there. Maybe I should think about a new handle. How about TaxGeek? | |
| 25 February 2008 | |
| DZ -
I was stressed before I left, stressed when I got home and a lot calmer now. I needed a reality check from you guys. I just woke up after falling asleep watching tv with my daughter. I guess I needed the break more than I realized. Thanks for the input. Tom | |
| February 25, 2008 | |
| DZ, with all due respect, there is a big difference when children come into the picture. Tom has a young one. They grow up so very fast, and in the short tax season, many special things can happen while the parents are busy at work. It really doesn't matter that it was a train show. The important thing is that all family members participated. (There's too little of that these days, IMO.)
Tom, I think you did the right thing. And I'm glad to hear your wife was persistent. Work can wait. Children and family should not. | |
| 27 February 2008 | |
| I can't help but reply to this. My husband and I both have companies that have busy times and slow times. We've learned to accept this, and to try our best to be supportive to the other when they are crunching (it's when we are both crunching that all hell breaks loose). However, I work for someone whose family is not at all supportive. For us, the crunch period is 10 weeks. And for those 10 weeks, the whining is unbelievable. Of course, his kids all want to go on the fancy vacation when it's over, and they all want money to do all sorts of things while he's working, but they whine like mad if they have to help out. You'd think they'd make it a family project (as there is always something for everyone to do), but they don't get it. Fortunately this year, he planned the vacation in advance, so the whining is greatly reduced. But I won't soon forget the lack of support they've shown someone who is trying to provide for them. True, you have to take some time off (for us, it's Friday nights, Saturday nights, and Sunday days that are family time), but it's not too much to ask for a group effort when any one person in the group is in crunch mode. | |
| February 27, 2008 | |
| WW, I agree completely. A family is a team, and if only one is doing the work, something is definitely wrong. | |
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